Written By Lawren D. Burroughs
DO YOU REALLY WANT TO DO-IT-YOURSELF? WE DON’T THINK IT’S REALLY WORTH IT AND NEITHER SHOULD YOU.
In our years of handling online divorces in Virginia, we've seen our fair share of cheap alternatives. Most of them promisecourt approved divorce formsand claim you can file for divorce on your own,withoutan attorney. While technically true, you can file on your own (pro se) without an attorney, few are able to accomplish this without any hiccups. Most end up reaching out to our firm to fix things after they've started on their own and it ends up costing themmorefor us to fix it than it would have if they’d hired us in the first place.
So, in this article, we'll take a look at some of the SEO optimized online divorce firms/companies that you may encounter along the way of your search for matrimonial freedom. As you’ll quickly realize, most are selling general divorce papers online and assume you’re good with filing for divorce on your own. Many just outline the divorce process, provide non-city specific information on filing fees, and leave you to complete your divorce on your own. I can assure you, most people need more than the divorce documents provided in a diy divorce.
Based on our years of experience handling contested divorce, we knew the best online divorce means more than simple court approval of divorce papers. Our clients needed a competent, licensed family law attorney to craft a separation agreement that provides them with a fair property division, spousal support (waived, determined, or reserved), (for couples with children) child support (determined or reserved), child custody, and excellent customer support - all while protecting them and helping them save money. There’s more to an uncontested divorce than using forms online to file divorce.
WHAT SHOULD I SEARCH ONLINE FOR CREDIBLE VIRGINIA ONLINE DIVORCE REVIEWS? LET’S START WITH THE BASICS. WHAT COMES UP WHEN YOU GOOGLE “ONLINE DIVORCE FORMS VIRGINIA”?
There are a lot of companies trying to convince you that you don’t need to use a divorce lawyer. What if you could have your cake and eat it too - and save money in the process. We’ll, with Frugal Legal Services you can.Feel free to contact pact us by phone at (757) 363-0077.
There were 5,710,000 results returned as of the date of this post. Apparently, there is a lot out there to choose from. Overwhelmed yet? How about we take a look at some of the results on the first page for now?
HERE’S THE FIRST AD THAT POPPED UP FROM A COMPANY THAT GOES BY DIVORCE WRITER ONLINE:
Paperwork is only a part of the divorce process. How do you file for divorce with the local court? What if your spouse refuses to cooperate? Hire a divorce attorney and save thousands on your uncontested divorce.
Assuming you know how to answer their questions, they claim to provide paperwork that you can fileon your ownwith the court. They provide a list of instructions for what needs to be filed based on your responses. That’s basically reciting publicly available information on the divorce process and filing fees. They provide a 100% guarantee and boast that they have thelowest price for online divorce paperwork. They clearly state that you must pay your filing fee separately and that they are not able to provide legal advice. In other words,they are not your attorney. They rely on your responses to provide divorce papers that should work (based on those responses). If, however, you are unsure about how to respond to a question or you require actual legal advice, they will not provide it. In other words, their guarantee is that you will be granted an uncontested divorceifyou know what you're doing.
DivorceWriter charges a flat fee of $137.00 to email documents to you that you must print, properly execute, and submit to the courtON YOUR OWN. The filing fee is generally around $91.00 in most cities/counties located within Virginia, meaning you're still spending at least $228.00. Sure, you’re technically saving money on legal fees, but we’re certain you’re time and money could be better spent elsewhere. Their divorce documents do not consider your time. Your time - is money. That’s why there’s no such thing as a free divorce. And, although they claim you can accomplish the process without appearing in court, there's honestly no way they can guarantee that every local court will process their paperwork in this manner. Even one of their prominent reviews claimed they had to appear in court (see below).
But I thought a court appearance wasn't necessary? Perhaps this customer preferred a court appointment over submitting their documents online and finalizing their divorce without a court appearance? Who knows?
So, what does this all mean? It means, it is possible that their claims are true. It means that if you put in the work andknowwhat you are doing (in other words, you understand Virginia divorce law), you can get a divorce. It means that you may be able to be divorced by affidavit, without the need to appear in person, in court, before a judge. What it also means is that you're kind of on your own to make it all happen. You essentially need to file divorce, but the prospect of spending thousands of dollars has shifted your focus to searching for the best online divorce attorney to draft your divorce papers - for an uncontested divorce, and complete your divorce for you. You’re really not asking too much.
WHAT SETS US APART FROM THE REST?
Frugal Legal Services can craft your separation agreement, draft and file your divorce forms, and complete your divorce for as little as $500.00.Call us at (757) 363-0077 with any questions or for details on how to get your uncontested divorce started today!
Unlike DivorceWriter's product, we draft the divorce forms you'll actually need. That means we do not rely on your responses alone to draft your divorce forms. Our attorney reviews your responses and follows up with you to make sure you understand the process and that you don't have any unanswered legal questions. We literally file your paperwork/divorce forms on your behalf and follow through until you are divorced. After all, that's what you're after, isn't it? You want a divorce. With our product, you shouldn't need to appear in person before a judge to get a divorce. If, by some chance, you are required to appear, your attorney will be right there by your side.
Is their divorce form drafting software going to be there by your side when their forms prove to be inadequate? Not likely. At best, you'll have wasted your time and you'll get a refund for the forms you purchased. The filing fee is separate, so you'll have to figure out what to do from there to finalize your divorce, but they won't likely refund that to you.
Why leave it up to chance and hope that the divorce forms are enough? Let our attorney do it for you, for less. The total fee for your divorce (including your filing fee, by the way) will not exceed $550.00.Most are completed for as little as $500.00.In every case, you can do it from the comfort of your own home, with the advice ofa competent, licensed Virginia divorce attorney, and without the need to visit a law office or appear in court. Call the office at(757) 363-0077for more information. We’re happy to answer all of your questions!
WHAT ABOUT SOME OF THE OTHERS LISTED ON THE FIRST PAGE? WHAT IF I ONLY WANT DIVORCE PAPERS?
The next ad listed is for a company that goes by RocketLawyer. I'm not sure where thelawyerpart comes in, because it appears to be anotherdo-it-yourself (D.I.Y.)outfit claiming to do it all for the least amount of money. The old saying - if it appears to be too good to be true, it probably is - jumps out at you when you dig a little further.
Your money AND your time are valuable resources. Unless you intend to go to law school and become a divorce lawyer, there’s no compelling reason to waste your time navigating the online divorce. We can do it all for you for as little as $500.00 - yes, that includes the court filing fees."
Your moneyANDyour time are valuable resources. Unless you intend to go to law school and become a divorce lawyer, there’s no compelling reason to waste your time navigating the online divorce. We can do it all for you for as little as $500.00 - yes, that includes the court filing fees.
So, how does RocketLawyer work? They appear take you through an online questionnaire and lead you to believe initially that their service is offered free of charge. Whilekind oftrue, there seems to be a catch. We did it and found that you need to enter your credit card information at the end. If you don't cancel on time or on their terms, they will begin charging you monthly for theirpremiumservice.
Obviously, we didn't enter our credit card information or sign up for a trial, but what we're led to believe is that they will produce a stipulation agreement for you based on your responses to their online questionnaire. What they don't seem to offer is … legal counsel - from a … lawyer - , at least not as part of the product displayed on their front page.
RocketLawyer seems a bit misleading at first glance. Maybe they do provide true legal guidance with your online divorce and it's all above board? That's a question we can't answer without further investigation. It's not clear whether they offer a complete packet of divorce paperwork or if their forms are guaranteed to be accepted by the Virginia court of your choosing. Every local court has its own requirements and procedures. Again, with our product, we receive your responses; we draft a comprehensive settlement agreement based on your responses and provide you with an opportunity to ask questions -yes, a licensed Virginia divorce attorney provides actual legal advice; we draftandfile your divorce paperwork; and wefinalizeyour divorce. You do not need to step foot in a lawyer's office or a courtroom to get divorced. We do it for a low flat rate fee and are with you every step of the way from start to finish!
ARE YOU BEGINNING TO SEE A TREND?
We could go on and on with examples from the first page results and beyond, but the theme seems to be that you are paying an entity of sorts to draft divorce forms thatshouldwork based onyouruninformedresponses. None appear to discusshowyou should answer or offeractuallegal advice - at least not for a low flat fee.
WHAT ARE SOME VIABLE OPTIONS?
Some links provide you with legitimate court forms approved by Virginia’s Judicial System (see below):
The local courts may or may not be willing to help. If you are not a trained divorce attorney, with years of family law experience, you owe it to yourself to get things right and to protect yourself in the process.
Although these forms areactualcourt forms, the court or its respective clerk's office is not permitted to provide you with any legal advice and, in many cases, will simply refer you to the law library or an attorney for help.
WHAT ABOUT VIRGINIA LEGAL AID?
Let Frugal Legal Services help with your online divorce. It’s what we do all day, every day.
Virginia Legal Aid offers a better product than most, but they may not to take it all the way, especially if you do not qualify financially. Virginia Legal Aid is typically staffed by dedicated and competent attorneys who seek to provide basic legal services to those who cannot otherwise afford private legal representation. If this is you, they may be a legitimate and viable option.
WHAT ABOUT PARALEGALS ORLEGAL TECHNICIANS?
Call us at (757) 363-0077 with any questions about the divorce process.
First of all, paralegals cannot represent you in court and should not be providing you with legal advice or filing your divorce. While many have training and are educated in the area of divorce, anyone can be hired as and/or call themselves a paralegal. No particular certification is required to become a paralegal in Virginia. And while many do the heavy lifting in many law firms, trusting your divorce to someone who is nottechnicallyqualified to represent you in a court of law, may be foolish at best.
As for theLegal Technician, we really have no idea what that means. It's not a thing, really. Divorcenet.com appears to have made it up to make them sound more official than they may be. From what we were able to ascertain, they are not licensed attorneys and they are not supposed to provide legal advice or representation. They shouldn’t be providing divorce papers online either. We’ve already established the importance of having an experienced attorney craft your separation agreement. If you are speaking with one, ask for their Virginia State Bar number. If they can't provide you with one, they should not be acting in the capacity of providing legal representation in the Commonwealth of Virginia. Get your money back and run in the other direction!
THE BOTTOM LINE: YOU MIGHT JUST BE GETTING WHAT YOU PAY FOR - BE CAREFUL OUT THERE!
What we assume most people want is competent legal representation for an affordable price. People want to feel protected and rest easily with their decisions. After all, in most cases, once it's done, it's done. You may not get a second chance if something goes wrong. We help our clients make well-informed legal decisions. We don't just ask questions and generate divorce forms. We don't make you do-it-yourself and try to sell you on how great that is. If you're not a family law attorney, your divorce is not necessarily the best D.I.Y. project. Maybe stick to refinishing furniture or tackling a project car. Nearly anything besides divorce law will be more forgiving and far less detrimental. Let us handle your online divorce for you from start to finish. Allowing Frugal Legal Services to complete your divorce will truly save time and money.
If you have any questions at all, please call the office and speak with the divorce paralegal, Jennifer, to get started.Our main office number is(757) 363-0077. We look forward to answering your questions and to helping you through what will ultimately seem like a simple legal process for an unbelievably low fee.
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Lawren D. Burroughs
I'm a lawyer, but not your typical lawyer. I practice family law in Virginia and am the founder of Burroughs Law Office, P.C., which provides affordable online legal services through its DBA, Frugal Legal Services. Families are my passion and I appreciate my own more with each passing day.
My wife and I reside in Virginia Beach, VA with our four children and our fearless Shih Tzu, Chewie Balewie. Serving on the Board of Directors for the LGBT Life Center (current acting Secretary on the Executive Committee) is one way I give back to our community. Volunteering with Equality Virginia and the Virginia Equality Bar Association allows me to help others gain equality and justice under the law through education, advocacy, outreach, collaboration, litigation support, or petitioning legislation at all levels of government in an effort to secure equal rights for LGBTQ+ Virginians from cradle-to-grave.
I’m an active member of the Virginia State Bar and the Virginia Beach Bar Association, and a former member of the Trans Bar Association and HRBOR (Hampton Roads LGBT Chamber of Commerce).
What are two legal grounds or reasons to legally get a divorce in VA? ›
Desertion, cruelty, adultery, and felonies with confinement of at least one year are all fault-based grounds for divorce. The only non-fault ground in Virginia is living separate and apart for one year (or six months if you have no minor children and have signed a Property Settlement Agreement).Does Virginia allow online divorce? ›
For residents of Virginia, the commonwealth has made it easy to obtain an uncontested divorce online. This process allows couples who have amicably agreed upon the division of property, child custody and other decisions to avoid unnecessary litigation and save on divorce costs.Can you get a divorce without the other person signing in Virginia? ›
Whether it is a fault or no-fault divorce, you do not need your spouse's signature or verbal agreement to file. Once you file the complaint and the divorce is opened with the court, your spouse will be served with the complaint and will have 21 days to respond.How do I file a no contest divorce in Virginia? ›
Usually, you'll do this by going in person to the circuit court clerk of the county or city where you're starting the divorce. In Virginia, you may file your uncontested divorce papers in the city or county where you and your spouse last lived together or, if you prefer, where your spouse currently lives.What is considered abandonment in a marriage in VA? ›
Under Virginia law, a person commits spousal abandonment by leaving the marital home as an act of knowingly ending the marriage. A spouse who leaves the home because both spouses have decided to separate does not commit abandonment. The other spouse did nothing to justify their abandonment.Is dating while separated adultery in Virginia? ›
Virginia Does Not Recognize Separation
While no law prohibits dating (note that dating does not mean sex) other people while you are separated from your spouse, it can affect the outcome of any pending or subsequently filed divorce and child custody proceedings.
The only grounds for which you can file for divorce immediately in Virginia is adultery. In cases of adultery (which is defined as a married individual having voluntary sex with another person), you can file for divorce immediately without waiting after a separation period.How quick is an online divorce? ›
A divorce where both parties agree typically takes four to six months when using an online service.How long do you have to live separately to get a divorce in Virginia? ›
Guide to Separation in Virginia. Virginia law allows for no-fault divorce on the grounds of (a) living “separate and apart” for one year or (b) living separate and apart for six months with a separation agreement in place and no minor children.What happens if you don t respond to divorce papers in Virginia? ›
However, in Virginia, if a defendant does not respond to the notification of divorce action, the court will continue the divorce proceedings as long as the court determines the papers were properly served under one of the mechanisms described above.
Can I get a divorce without my spouse knowing? ›
If you don't know where your spouse is, and hence cannot serve a divorce summons on him/her in person, you may divorce through a process called substituted service. Substituted service is permitted when the defendant's exact whereabouts are unknown.Does adultery affect divorce in Virginia? ›
Adultery is not only a ground for divorce in Virginia, but it is also a Class 4 misdemeanor under Virginia Code § 18.2-365.How long does a no contest divorce take in Virginia? ›
Once you have been separated for six months or one year, the steps in an uncontested divorce can be completed relatively quickly. Depending on how fast you can agree on and sign a property settlement agreement and the judge's availability, your divorce can be finalized in approximately one to two months.What is the cheapest way to get a divorce in Virginia? ›
The cheapest option for divorce in Virginia is a do-it-yourself divorce or DIY divorce. But only if done correctly. This method is ideal for families with no children and who do not have a high level of conflict in their divorce.How much does a uncontested divorce cost in VA? ›
Uncontested Divorce Requirements in Virginia
Our firm provides a 2 week uncontested divorce for $695 plus the court fees of $89. We also offer an uncontested divorce in Virginia which takes 5 weeks and costs just $495 plus $89 court fees.
Although a sexless marriage is not listed in the law as a ground of fault for absolute divorce or divorce from bed and board, it can be strong evidence for a court to find constructive abandonment.How long does a parent have to be absent to be considered abandonment in Virginia? ›
Is there a specific period of time before you can legally claim child abandonment? The Virginia Code says that if the absent parent has not supported you or the child for 30 days, it can be considered evidence that this absent parent has intent to abandon.What is willful desertion? ›
Wilful desertion is the voluntary separation of one of the married parties from the other with intent to desert.Can you sue someone for sleeping with your spouse in Virginia? ›
Can I Sue My Spouse For Adultery? The short answer to this question is yes.Can you go to jail for adultery in Virginia? ›
Any person, being married, who voluntarily shall have sexual intercourse with any person not his or her spouse shall be guilty of adultery, punishable as a Class 4 misdemeanor.
Can you go to jail for cheating on your spouse in Virginia? ›
Although there is a criminal statute in the Virginia Code that makes adultery a misdemeanor, it is probably unconstitutional. It is not enforced. No cheating spouses go to jail for their infidelity in Virginia.Are you legally married after 7 years in Virginia? ›
There is NO common law marriage in Virginia.
The theory there, which I assume you already know, is that, if you and your partner have lived together long enough (usually somewhere in the neighborhood of seven to ten years), the law will eventually deem you married just by virtue of your continued cohabitation.
|State||Average Filing Fees|
|Virginia||Use this calculator to find your district's fees.|
|Wisconsin||$184.50 (with no child support or alimony), $194.50 (with child support or alimony)|
Is Virginia a 50/50 State When It Comes to Divorce? Virginia is an equitable distribution state, not a community property or 50/50 state. The split in a Virginia divorce does not have to be 50/50. Instead, the court will decide what is a fair division of property.Can a divorce be done in one day? ›
No in one week it's not possible to get a mutual divorce. After the filing the first petition and recording the statement of both the parties, the court generally adjourns the matter for a period of 6 months.What is the quickest divorce you can get? ›
It Is Possible to Get a Quick Divorce
The easiest type of divorce, which takes the least amount of time, is called an uncontested divorce. This relatively fast divorce happens because all of the major issues have been agreed upon by you and your spouse.
In special cases, a divorce can be filed before 3 years of marriage have passed. However, you will have to prove that you have suffered exceptional hardship or if your spouse has been exceptionally unreasonable and cruel.How long do you have to be married to get half of retirement in Virginia? ›
Generally, you must be married for one year before you can get spouse's benefits. However, if you are the parent of your spouse's child, the one-year rule does not apply.What not to do during separation? ›
- Keep it private.
- Don't leave the house.
- Don't pay more than your share.
- Don't jump into a rebound relationship.
- Don't put off the inevitable.
While a Virginia couple cannot obtain legal separation, they can be separated but still live in the same home prior to finalizing a divorce.
What happens if I reject divorce notice? ›
If u do not recieve and the report of process server is that u ve refused then court will consider as refusal and it will be deemed that summons are served and the court may proceed ex-parte. Which is unnecessary and you may face problem if proceeded ex-parte.What happens if my ex ignores divorce papers? ›
Use a court bailiff to re-serve the divorce papers to your spouse. This will incur an additional fee. It will help in the satisfaction of the court and provide enough evidence that the spouse has received the divorce papers. A process server is someone who will physically deliver legal documents to the respondent.What happens if respondent does not agree to divorce? ›
In a nutshell, no, your spouse cannot prevent a divorce proceeding. If they refuse to cooperate, it will be necessary for you take some additional steps, such as using a court bailiff or a process server.How do you divorce someone who doesn't want a divorce? ›
- The First Step Is to Seek a Lawyer's Help. ...
- Serving the Papers. ...
- The Separation. ...
- Meet with a Lawyer. ...
- The Divorce Petition. ...
- Divorce Publication. ...
- Legal Support to Proceed with a Divorce When the Other Spouse Does Not Want to.
If you cannot find your spouse, you can request permission from the court to publish a notice of the divorce in the newspaper or post a notice in the courthouse. This is called a Motion to Serve by Publication or Posting.What can wife claim in divorce? ›
After they are divorced, the wife has the right to ask for maintenance and livelihood costs for her and her children, however, she cannot ask for the property in a divorce settlement. For example: The husband buys an apartment for his wife and himself after they get married, and it is registered in his name.Can text messages be used in court to prove adultery? ›
A text may have been intended to be private, but it can be used as a form of written communication in a legal case that shows to the entire world an affair and cheating. A text can also expose terse messages about a couple's children, visitations, and custody related matters.Does cheating affect alimony in Virginia? ›
A spouse who is having an affair will generally receive no spousal support. However, a judge could award a cheating spouse some support based on the following factors: The finances of the parties. The degree of fault of each spouse in the divorce.Can you get a divorce without going to court in Virginia? ›
As long as you've met the requirements for beginning an uncontested divorce, you should be able to get your divorce decree not long after you've filed the necessary divorce papers. Usually, you won't have to appear in court.Can you refuse a divorce in Virginia? ›
If both parties agree to the divorce and the served party signs the papers they are served, then a judge merely has to finalize the divorce. If one party does not agree to the divorce or refuses to sign a separation agreement, then the court will hold a hearing to determine the outcome of the divorce.
Who pays for divorce in Virginia? ›
Divorce Costs in Virginia: Who Will Pay? In a Virginia divorce, each party usually has to pay their own attorney's fees. In some cases, one spouse may be required to pay the court costs and attorney fees for the other party. The judge makes this determination.Do you need a lawyer for an uncontested divorce in Virginia? ›
Do I need an attorney for an uncontested divorce? You can avoid the expenses of a contested divorce and may be able to obtain it sooner if you file an uncontested divorce in Virginia. However, you should still retain an experienced family law lawyer to protect your legal rights.How long does uncontested divorce take? ›
An uncontested divorce is a relatively quick and cost-effective way of divorcing. From lodging the divorce petition with the court until receipt of your decree absolute, an uncontested divorce takes about four to five months.Who pays for a divorce? ›
The Petitioner is responsible for covering the cost of the preparation and submission of the divorce paperwork, together with obtaining legal advice and paying the Court fees. The Respondent will only be responsible for covering their own legal fees.What are the two most common reasons for divorce? ›
- Infidelity. Cheating on your spouse not only breaks a vow—it breaks the trust in a relationship. ...
- Lack of Intimacy. Physical intimacy is important in any romantic relationship, but it is essential to the growth of a long-term relationship. ...
- Communication. ...
- Money. ...
1)The husband's whereabouts are unknown for a period of four years. 2)The husband has failed to provide maintenance to the wife for at least two years. 3)The husband has been under imprisonment for seven or more years. 4)The husband is unable to meet the marital obligations.What are the requirements to get a divorce in Virginia? ›
To obtain a divorce in Virginia, either you or your spouse must be a resident of Virginia for at least six months prior to filing for divorce. If there are no children from the marriage, you must be separated for a minimum of six months and have a written property settlement agreement before you may file for divorce.What are grounds for immediate divorce in Virginia? ›
The only grounds for which you can file for divorce immediately in Virginia is adultery. In cases of adultery (which is defined as a married individual having voluntary sex with another person), you can file for divorce immediately without waiting after a separation period.What is the #1 cause of divorce? ›
Lack of commitment is the most common reason given by divorcing couples according to a recent national survey. Here are the reasons given and their percentages: Lack of commitment 73% Argue too much 56%Is emotional neglect a reason for divorce? ›
If you have an emotionally neglectful spouse and you've tried to fix things through talking and therapy, sustaining your marriage could be challenging. Once you are no longer feeling as though you are a team and like your spouse is a stranger, you could be better off getting a divorce.
Is emotional neglect in a marriage grounds for divorce? ›
Another reason for divorce reported almost as much as mental cruelty is "neglect" itself. These include both emotional abandonment and physical abandonment. Husbands that work away from the home, sometimes leaving their wives alone for weeks at a time, fall into this category.What is unreasonable behavior divorce? ›
'Unreasonable behaviour' in a divorce is used to describe your spouse acting in such a way that you can't reasonably be expected continue living with them. Of the five possible grounds for divorce, unreasonable behaviour is the most used.What are the 7 grounds of divorce? ›
These grounds are such as desertion, adultery, cruelty, venereal disease, leprosy, insanity, and conversion. Under sub-clause (2) of section 13 of the Act, there are available four ground on which the wife alone can file a divorce petition.Can the wife get everything in a divorce? ›
The short answer, is, no, not everything is split 50 50 in a divorce. No two relationships are the same. No two property settlements are the same. There are a range of possibilities that could occur from your divorce and property settlement.How long does the average divorce take in Virginia? ›
Depending on how fast you can agree on and sign a property settlement agreement and the judge's availability, your divorce can be finalized in approximately one to two months. You may even be able to complete it by filing an affidavit or deposition and avoid the need to attend a court hearing.What is a Rule 58 in divorce? ›
Rule 43 of the High Court (or Rule 58 of the Magistrate's Court if you are divorcing in the Regional Court) is a special procedure that can assist a spouse in such circumstances. This is a special mechanism whereby a spouse makes application to court for “interim” maintenance, pending the finalisation of the divorce.How long do you have to be separated before you can file for divorce in Virginia? ›
Guide to Separation in Virginia. Virginia law allows for no-fault divorce on the grounds of (a) living “separate and apart” for one year or (b) living separate and apart for six months with a separation agreement in place and no minor children.How long can a spouse delay a divorce in Virginia? ›
If your husband has filed for divorce, once you've been served with a complaint, you'll only have 21 days to respond. There's no room for dragging your feet or taking your time; if you don't respond within that time frame, technically the court can move on with your divorce without further notice to you!